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Hope. Have you ever thought about how it’s played a role in your life?


To see the bigger picture, it’s important to know what it is.


What is Hope?

When you look up it’s definition, you’re likely to find it defined as a feeling,

or a belief, or an attitude.  A couple of dictionary sites define it as a wishing or a strong desire for future events or circumstances that either affect one’s own life, or aspects of the world.

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Some say hope is just dreaming. Some say it’s a mirage that we try to hold onto when we want a different future or more of the same positive circumstances in the future. But, what’s the alternative? Without even knowing you, I’d venture to say that you and I would probably both much prefer hope to hopelessness.

And a better question might be: if we hope with strong emotion and exacting vision, is it possible for our own energy to help manifest what we hope for? (No, we can’t hope to change the sky green or other impossible feats, but within the realm of reason, could strong hope change the future?)


What is Hope to me? Based on my own life and what those close to me have experienced,


Hope is:

  • Beams of sunshine coming through the window in the morning
  • The belief that life doesn’t end when the physical form dies
  • Knowing that there could be an end to pain
  • Knowing that there could be a cure
  • A job offer
  • A raise
  • Improved health
  • The starting line… or the finish line in sight
  • Clean water
  • The promise that children will have it better off than their parents
  • New medicines
  • A sunset… and then a sunrise
  • Laughter
  • Saved hostages
  • Saved sins
  • The words, “It’s treatable”
  • A dog’s wagging tail
  • A wish to win
  • A wish not to lose
  • Rainbows
  • Peaceful sleep
  • A wish for safety
  • An intervention
  • A day without violence
  • A desire that they love you back


The list can go on, but one thing’s for certain. Life would be drastically different and clearly much worse without the existence of hope.


What does hope mean to you?



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What is love

The Power of Love in Attracting What You Want

The Power of Love

Before you can understand the power of love, you really need to know, “What is Love?”

What is Love?

Many would agree that love is a force of nature. And most might also agree,

The power of love

that depending on the context, it might just be the most

powerful force of nature that exists. Some mig

ht say that it is a neurological condition, and others with a more sociological slant migh

t say that it commitment entrenched in deep positive emotion.

A couple of things can be said of love that are irrefutable: Love is what connects all of humanity, mankind is conditioned to seek it, and it transcends even death.

How does this relate to attracting through love?

If you believe in the power of attraction, or as Dr. Wayne Dyer calls it, the “Power of Intention,” you realize that every emotion is emitted in a certain frequency. Just like sound waves have a frequency, so do microwaves, light waves, even waves in the ocean,

Think of it like this: if you are a radio with a number of different radio stations, LOVE would occupy one of those stations. And that’s the channel that we want to be playing to get all of the things that that station can provide for us.

Want to hear from some others on the subject?


In an article published by Psychology Today, the author states, “Love is the best antidepressant—but many of our ideas about it are wrong. The less love you have, the more depressed you are likely to feel.” She goes on to say, “Love is as critical for your mind and body as oxygen. It’s not negotiable.”*

* (Psychology Today, by Ellen McGrath; pub 12/1,2002; reviewed 6/9/2016; http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200212/the-power-love)

Dr. Wayne Dyer has said, ““All great spiritual masters are teaching what we’re talking about,” says Dyer. “They’re teaching forgiveness. They’re teaching kindness. They’re teaching love. They’re not teaching wanting. They’re not teaching greed.”

Well, what most people really want comes through love. People do not want the feelings and the aftermath that comes with greed. They desire the things that are brought to them through the power of love.

Here’s an excerpt from Og Mandino’s “The Greatest Miracle in the World”:

“Remember, then, the four laws of happiness and success.

  • Count your blessings.
  • Proclaim your rarity.
  • Go another mile.
  • Use wisely your power of choice.

And one more, to fulfill the other four. Do all things with love … ”


How Do You Harness the Power of Love?

This is the easy part. You LOVE! It all starts with the self-talk. You use love words.

Start each day with thinking about all the things in your life that you love. What do you love so much that you want more of it? Really get into it and FEEL the good feeling that comes with each thing that think of. Visualize each thing as clearly as possible.

As you go throughout the day, what do you see that you love? What do you experience that you love? What do others do that you love? (As I do this, sometimes the things I DON’T love come in spurts of thought. If this happens with you, just recognize it, and refocus on the things that you love.)

Do this as a conscious exercise and eventually it will become a habit. Since like energy attracts like energy, you might just be surprised at the wonderful changes you experience in your life.

Here’s to enjoying the journey.


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Discover a More Positive Life: Avoid Toxic People

Avoid Toxic People

I really dislike the term “toxic people.”   Calling other people toxic is just negative.  Yet, people who on the one hand can be loving, compassionate, and fun can lean towards behaviors that are incompatible with others trying to surround themselves with the best life has to offer. They can just bring the people around them down.

“Toxic people” can come in all shapes and sizes, and the term can mean a lot of things depending on context. Here, as we talk about what you can do to lead a more positive life, “toxic people” means people that take you away from that goal.Avoiding negative people

We’ve talked before how the individual – YOU — are responsible for your own thoughts. YOU create your self-talk. YOU are in charge of the story line that gets told inside your head, yet we don’t live in a bubble. Others come and go in our lives, and others do have an effect on our experiences. We are social beings and we need others in our lives.

That said, we can also take an active role in how we let others into our experience. This means letting those who affect you positively into your experience, and keeping those who impact you negatively to a minimum.

How Do You Spot Toxic People?

1) Toxic people are cynical.

These are the people who always seem to have a negative worldview. They tend to always look at circumstances as though the glass is half empty. They constantly seem to want to point out the downfall or the negative in any situation.

2) They tend to have a negative tone. Have you ever noticed that, when talking to some people, just through their tone and body language they give you energy? Alternatively, have you ever noticed those who tend to deplete your energy? Have you ever noticed these people’s tone of voice? A lot of times, it’s just really demoralizing!

3) Toxic people can be those who are really insecure. These people put others down to make themselves feel better. They tend to give themselves humble-sounding compliments like, “I can’t believe I was able to do this… but I…” They may constantly one-up others, needing to get the last word in without giving others value in the conversation. They are either secretly or outwardly seeking attention.

4) They gossip. It’s almost like they feed on talking badly about others. Why? It speaks to a need to be involved, a need for feeling important, and their own insecurities.

Who does gossip hurt? Well, it CAN hurt the person who’s the topic of conversation, but often, they don’t even know they’re being talked about! It really hurts the gossipers. Why? It focuses on the negative. It’s negative energy. It’s not leading to the positive life that’s our goal.


So if you know what toxic people look like and what they do, what do you do about it?


Avoid Negative People and Negative Situations

That’s right! You can’t change others, and weren’t meant to, but you CAN remove yourself from bad situations.  This has to be intentional. It’s a matter of choice. Make a conscious choice to avoid being around negative people. If you’re in a toxic relationship, determine what makes it that way. What is keeping you both from being able to work toward that positive, fun, constructive life you want?Avoid the cynical

Avoiding other people or situations that are toxic can difficult to do, but it can be done. Just find someone or something that takes you out of whatever negative situation you’re in, and immerse yourself in someone or something that makes you feel good.

In some cases this is near impossible. In these situations, the key is not to get emotionally connected to the negative. The true compass is your feelings. If a situation makes you FEEL badly, you’re NOT headed in the direction of a positive life.

Some other tips when avoiding won’t work?

  • Notice when topics make you feel badly, and change the subject to something that makes you feel good!
  • See if you can point out something funny, something that makes you all laugh.
  • Be outwardly grateful. It’s surprising sometimes how this catches on. A negative topic that’s redirected through gratefulness can completely change the outcome of an interaction!

Lastly, if you leave a friend’s company and you realize that you’re constantly feeling badly when you look back at your interaction, maybe consider other friends to spend more time with.


Here’s the thing: we only have a little time here on earth. If you’re seeking happiness and the best, most positive experience while you’re here, realize that you have a choice where you spend that time. Knowing that others have influence on you and ultimately help shape who you are, choose wisely.

Here’s to enjoying the journey!

Positive Affirmations Can Make a Difference

Positive Affirmations: What Are They and Do They Help?

Most of us who are familiar with the all-time great motivational speakers have heard of positive affirmations. But do they really work in helping us to lead a life that is fulfilling?

Words.  The Power of Positive Affirmations

To start with, let’s take a look at what the word “affirmation” means.


The site The Free Dictionary.com states that affirmation means “something declared to be true; a positive statement or judgment.” The next definition is “A statement intended to provide encouragement, emotional support, or motivation, especially when used for the purpose of autosuggestion.”


When we’re talking about positive affirmations, it’s the last part of that definition—the autosuggestion—that most applies.

You see, words matter. We all know that, right?


I remember growing up, I was hounded by a particular girl in class. Even after school, she’d manage to find me and would always say things to try to get under my skin. One day, at the end of class, I noticed a notebook being passed around. They called it a “slam” book. Did you have those where you went to school?


The purpose of the slam book was to have a page for each person in the class. Every member of class could “sign” the book on each person’s page, but usually they’d write some things about the person on their page. Everyone was anxious to sign the book, but secretly, they were more anxious to find out what other kids had written about them.


I remember when it was my turn to get the book, I was so nervous about what my classmates had said about me. I flipped to my page, and was really happy to see that there were some really nice things said about me by the other kids. But there was that one comment – that mean one by the girl who always tried to get to me. THAT was the one that stuck in my head. With 99% positive things written, why did I fixate on the 1 that was ugly?


I remember going home and crying to my mom. There wasn’t much she could say or do to help me feel better, but she did tell me the age-old adage: “Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me.”


Bull. They hurt. To this day, while I’m far from hurt over it, I still remember it. Do I think about it often? No. That’s counterproductive, and goes against what I believe will create the best future for me. I bring it up, though, to show that negative words do matter.


But so do positive ones. And those are the ones we’re talking about here.

Dr. John Gottman, relationship expert for over 40 years and founder of the Gottman Institute, predicts divorce among couples that he talks with based on their ratio of positive words (and expressions) over the negative ones. “The magic ratio is 5:1.” Those couples who have 5 times more positive interactions than negative ones are most likely to be stable.


The reason, he suggests for this ratio, is that there isn’t balance of power between the negative and the positive.


Today’s Christian Woman states that, “Our brain needs a higher number of positive entries to counterbalance [a] built-in negativity bias. And several small, frequent, positive acts pack more punch than one giant-size positive.”


If this is all true for couples, it certainly is true in our own self-talk. Self affirmation, using words of affirmation internally is a must to counteract the negatives thrown at us on a daily basis.


How to Incorporate Positive Affirmations into Your Day


  • To start with, it MUST be something that you commit to. It just needs to be part of your routine. I like to begin my day by using affirmations when talking to myself, before I even get out of bed.
  • Use present tense. “I am ____________.”
  • The ratio above states the importance of multiple occurrences of the positive. So state an affirmation 5 times.
  • THINK about what you are saying. What does that look like? Can you visualize it? Can you feel it? What does that feel like? What does it look like? What are the positive things that happen around you when you are what you repeat?   The more passion and the more “realness” you put with that statement, the more powerful it will be.
  • Want an example? “I have a light inside me that I will shine on the everyone I see today.” ““I have a light inside me that I will shine on the everyone I see today.” “I have a light inside me that I will shine on the everyone I see today.”

Can you feel it? It should feel really good, whatever you are telling yourself.

  • Then take that positive feeling and get on with your day.


If, as the day goes on, something negative comes your way, notice it, but try not to dwell on it. Instead, start your positive affirmations to negate the negative.


One way to take your mind off of negative things that you encounter is to think of things – and I mean REALLY get into the thought – of what you are thankful for. In one of the presentations I’ve seen by Tony Robbins he states that you can’t devote energy to negative emotions when you are really concentrating on what you are grateful for.


It really does change the picture. You CAN be positive. You CAN have all that being positive can bring to you. Attract good by thinking good things. Start today.


Need extra help? Watch this video.  See what some positive encouragement, affirmations and belief can do.

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Mind Reprogramming with Conscious Positive Thinking

We want positive events and circumstances in our lives. So why is it that we don’t always get them?


The Power of Thought

Our minds are computers which we have programmed. Sometimes our prog

Positive thinking

ramming is deliberate, but most often, we’ve programmed our minds through our thought patterns — those streams of conversation that take place in our heads to which we pay little or no attention.


We take in data of all sorts. We take in what others tell us from a very early age, analyze it, and create files, sort of like a filing cabinet. We store data so that we can make sense of things that go on around us.


Here’s the problem. A large portion of the data that we process is negative, or interpreted that way.


Think about this: from a very early age, we are told, “no.” “Don’t do that,” “Not a good idea,” etc. We’re told this by parents and other adults who try to protect us from harm, an

d while the intention may be good, it starts to condition us early on to accept negative programming. We then continue to accept it throughout life, often without even realizing it, unless we make a concerted effort to change how negative words influence us.


In the article, “The Most Dangerous Word in the World,” by Andrew Newb

erg, M.D., and Mark Waldman; (Psychology Today, 8/1/12), the authors suggest that we process negative and positive events and words differently. They state that negative words have a profoundly greater destructive effect on a person than positive words have in producing positive effects. Negative words expressed with passion can trigger stress chemicals that take a toll on a person both psychologically and physiologically.

They go on to say that negative thinking is self-perpetuating and can be difficult to stop. Humans seem to have a propensity to worry, and it might just be hardwired in us from a time when we associated distinctly negative events with threats to our very survival.


Interestingly, the brain reacts differently to positive thinking. While we can overcome negative thoughts with positive ones, our minds respond with less vigor to good thou

ghts. One of the founders of “Positive Psychology,” Barbara Frederickson found that for each negative expression, we would need to generate at least 3 positive ones to combat the effects of the negative one.


With this in mind, is there any doubt as to the power of thought, and why we need to consciously work on reprogramming them to benefit us?


How Do We Begin to Reprogram and Make Positive Thinking Habitual?

We begin by listening to our self-chatter, and catching ourselves when realize we are generating negative thoughts. We can then consciously redirect our thoughts. But…

Ponder this: If we want to redirect from negative thinking to positive thinking and we “catch” ourselves thinking negative thoughts, aren’t we giving attention to the negative thoughts?


Obviously, the answer is yes. However, many people go through life paying no attention to their self talk and the negative thoughts perpetuate.


Tony Robbins, international professional speaker and motivator focusing on manifesting a positive life, wholly believes in mind power. He says, “As soon as I start to get stressed, I kill that monster while it’s little…I don’t wait until it’s Godzilla eating the city, and my life….” Tony Robbins believes that reprogramming your mind [consciously eliminating the negative and focusing on positive] is part of taking an active approach in designing the life that you want.


Catching yourself in a negative stream of thought enables you to make a conscious decision to redirect; produce a positive thought, focus on it, repeat it at least 5 times, and do it with as much positive emotion as you can muster. The positive emotions help to counteract the “threatening” forces of negative influences.


Want to read more on how to reprogram your negative self-talk focusing on positive thinking? Check out the book by Shad Helmstetter, Ph.D.: What to Say When You Talk To Yourself,

or the book by Jennifer Rothschild,Me, Myself and Lies: What You Say When You Talk To Yourself.  Both books are great reads and can really help you redirect thought in positive ways.


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