What is love

The Power of Love in Attracting What You Want

The Power of Love

Before you can understand the power of love, you really need to know, “What is Love?”

What is Love?

Many would agree that love is a force of nature. And most might also agree,

The power of love

that depending on the context, it might just be the most

powerful force of nature that exists. Some mig

ht say that it is a neurological condition, and others with a more sociological slant migh

t say that it commitment entrenched in deep positive emotion.

A couple of things can be said of love that are irrefutable: Love is what connects all of humanity, mankind is conditioned to seek it, and it transcends even death.

How does this relate to attracting through love?

If you believe in the power of attraction, or as Dr. Wayne Dyer calls it, the “Power of Intention,” you realize that every emotion is emitted in a certain frequency. Just like sound waves have a frequency, so do microwaves, light waves, even waves in the ocean,

Think of it like this: if you are a radio with a number of different radio stations, LOVE would occupy one of those stations. And that’s the channel that we want to be playing to get all of the things that that station can provide for us.

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In an article published by Psychology Today, the author states, “Love is the best antidepressant—but many of our ideas about it are wrong. The less love you have, the more depressed you are likely to feel.” She goes on to say, “Love is as critical for your mind and body as oxygen. It’s not negotiable.”*

* (Psychology Today, by Ellen McGrath; pub 12/1,2002; reviewed 6/9/2016; http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200212/the-power-love)

Dr. Wayne Dyer has said, ““All great spiritual masters are teaching what we’re talking about,” says Dyer. “They’re teaching forgiveness. They’re teaching kindness. They’re teaching love. They’re not teaching wanting. They’re not teaching greed.”

Well, what most people really want comes through love. People do not want the feelings and the aftermath that comes with greed. They desire the things that are brought to them through the power of love.

Here’s an excerpt from Og Mandino’s “The Greatest Miracle in the World”:

“Remember, then, the four laws of happiness and success.

  • Count your blessings.
  • Proclaim your rarity.
  • Go another mile.
  • Use wisely your power of choice.

And one more, to fulfill the other four. Do all things with love … ”


How Do You Harness the Power of Love?

This is the easy part. You LOVE! It all starts with the self-talk. You use love words.

Start each day with thinking about all the things in your life that you love. What do you love so much that you want more of it? Really get into it and FEEL the good feeling that comes with each thing that think of. Visualize each thing as clearly as possible.

As you go throughout the day, what do you see that you love? What do you experience that you love? What do others do that you love? (As I do this, sometimes the things I DON’T love come in spurts of thought. If this happens with you, just recognize it, and refocus on the things that you love.)

Do this as a conscious exercise and eventually it will become a habit. Since like energy attracts like energy, you might just be surprised at the wonderful changes you experience in your life.

Here’s to enjoying the journey.


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Discover a More Positive Life: Avoid Toxic People

Avoid Toxic People

I really dislike the term “toxic people.”   Calling other people toxic is just negative.  Yet, people who on the one hand can be loving, compassionate, and fun can lean towards behaviors that are incompatible with others trying to surround themselves with the best life has to offer. They can just bring the people around them down.

“Toxic people” can come in all shapes and sizes, and the term can mean a lot of things depending on context. Here, as we talk about what you can do to lead a more positive life, “toxic people” means people that take you away from that goal.Avoiding negative people

We’ve talked before how the individual – YOU — are responsible for your own thoughts. YOU create your self-talk. YOU are in charge of the story line that gets told inside your head, yet we don’t live in a bubble. Others come and go in our lives, and others do have an effect on our experiences. We are social beings and we need others in our lives.

That said, we can also take an active role in how we let others into our experience. This means letting those who affect you positively into your experience, and keeping those who impact you negatively to a minimum.

How Do You Spot Toxic People?

1) Toxic people are cynical.

These are the people who always seem to have a negative worldview. They tend to always look at circumstances as though the glass is half empty. They constantly seem to want to point out the downfall or the negative in any situation.

2) They tend to have a negative tone. Have you ever noticed that, when talking to some people, just through their tone and body language they give you energy? Alternatively, have you ever noticed those who tend to deplete your energy? Have you ever noticed these people’s tone of voice? A lot of times, it’s just really demoralizing!

3) Toxic people can be those who are really insecure. These people put others down to make themselves feel better. They tend to give themselves humble-sounding compliments like, “I can’t believe I was able to do this… but I…” They may constantly one-up others, needing to get the last word in without giving others value in the conversation. They are either secretly or outwardly seeking attention.

4) They gossip. It’s almost like they feed on talking badly about others. Why? It speaks to a need to be involved, a need for feeling important, and their own insecurities.

Who does gossip hurt? Well, it CAN hurt the person who’s the topic of conversation, but often, they don’t even know they’re being talked about! It really hurts the gossipers. Why? It focuses on the negative. It’s negative energy. It’s not leading to the positive life that’s our goal.


So if you know what toxic people look like and what they do, what do you do about it?


Avoid Negative People and Negative Situations

That’s right! You can’t change others, and weren’t meant to, but you CAN remove yourself from bad situations.  This has to be intentional. It’s a matter of choice. Make a conscious choice to avoid being around negative people. If you’re in a toxic relationship, determine what makes it that way. What is keeping you both from being able to work toward that positive, fun, constructive life you want?Avoid the cynical

Avoiding other people or situations that are toxic can difficult to do, but it can be done. Just find someone or something that takes you out of whatever negative situation you’re in, and immerse yourself in someone or something that makes you feel good.

In some cases this is near impossible. In these situations, the key is not to get emotionally connected to the negative. The true compass is your feelings. If a situation makes you FEEL badly, you’re NOT headed in the direction of a positive life.

Some other tips when avoiding won’t work?

  • Notice when topics make you feel badly, and change the subject to something that makes you feel good!
  • See if you can point out something funny, something that makes you all laugh.
  • Be outwardly grateful. It’s surprising sometimes how this catches on. A negative topic that’s redirected through gratefulness can completely change the outcome of an interaction!

Lastly, if you leave a friend’s company and you realize that you’re constantly feeling badly when you look back at your interaction, maybe consider other friends to spend more time with.


Here’s the thing: we only have a little time here on earth. If you’re seeking happiness and the best, most positive experience while you’re here, realize that you have a choice where you spend that time. Knowing that others have influence on you and ultimately help shape who you are, choose wisely.

Here’s to enjoying the journey!


Happiness: What is it and how do you find it?

If you try to define it, what is happiness to you?

Throughout centuries, people have spent their entire lives looking for it; some find it, and some don’t.Happy mom

While people define it differently, my definition is an encompassing feeling of peace, fulfillment and joy. However it’s defined, one thing’s for sure: finding happiness is an independent journey. Everyone finds it through different things and experiences.

And ultimately, happiness is found through attitude. Happiness is a choice.

If happiness is choice, then it’s just a matter of each person determining what it looks like for them, and deciding to be it, right?

Well, outside influences can make that easier said than done.

So here are 8 things that we can actively do to help us on that journey:

1) Look for the good.

“Good”, well, it just feels good. When someone does something nice for you, it feels good. When you do something good for someone else, it usually feels good. When things are pleasant, loving, fun, energetic, and aren’t against your core values, it feels good. And happiness is a “feel good” emotion.

This also means…

2) Find the good in others.

Happiness is an emotion that you find within yourself. While others can help you find that, you certainly won’t find happiness by tearing others down. Have you ever seen those who spend a lot of time judging others? Have you seen how happy they are? These people don’t tend to be the happiest. Why? Again, happiness is found in yourself, and can’t be found by belittling others.

3) Surround yourself with people that make you feel good.

People are social creatures. But there are all types of people in the world. Have you ever noticed that some people walk in a room and light it up, while some people seem to suck all of the air out of the room? Some people have a natural tendency to smile a lot, and others don’t. Have you ever noticed that when you leave some people’s company you feel positive and good about yourself, while with others, you don’t feel that same way?happy family

Spend time with people who share your values, like to have fun the way you do, appreciate similar things, and make you feel good while you’re with them, and once you leave them.

On the flip side, (and this can be harder) you will want to monitor how you feel with people and NOT be around those who don’t bring you positiveness. That means remove yourself from interactions that aren’t positive and relationships that don’t feel good. That can be particularly hard when a relationship is… comfortable.

Have you ever seen people in a relationship that is comfortable, but doesn’t make a person happy? That’s because comfortable feels good, but it’s only one piece of the puzzle that leads to happiness.

4) Follow Your Values.

This was mentioned above, but it is hard to be happy when you are doing something against your core values. It’s hard to be happy when you are around other people that do things against your core values, and particularly if others want you to join them. Listen to your soul and follow your belief system. It’s one kind of guidance system keeping you on the right path.

5) Find and Live Your Purpose.

I believe that everyone has gifts, special gifts that they were meant to share with the world. I believe that in doing that, they not only provide a unique value to others and make the world a better place, but this is how they fulfill their sense of purpose.

Yet, many of us have no idea what these special gifts are! EVERYONE has them. Figure yours out. Sometimes, its’ really hard to see them in ourselves so ask someone close to you what your gifts are.

Then use them with wild abandon. It’s amazing how far that can take a person on their journey to find happiness.

6) Love Abundantly.

In keeping with “Look for the Good” above, love energy is one of the most powerful energies in the universe. Most spiritual leaders argue that love is THE most powerful energy that exists between living things. Have you ever heard that hate will never conquer hate, that only love can defeat hate? And hate is a pretty powerful emotion.

Our minds sometimes get used to negative self talk which leads to internal conversations about things that aren’t right in the world. That’s one of the reasons we are so quick to notice things that are bad, things that hurt, and problems, but not as quick to actually notice when we feel good, or experience something nice.

Think of this: have you ever had a hangnail that starts as an ache, but then becomes really annoying? Eventually it hurts? You might even wrap it up or put something on it to help it heal?

How much attention did you pay your finger before you got the hangnail?Hand making a heart

We tend to focus on fixing problems, but don’t spend the same energy focusing on things we love.

Find things that you love. Take every chance you get to tell yourself what you love. “I love the sunshine.” “I love the birds singing.” “I love the flowers.” “I love the sound of rain on the roof.” “I love health.” “I love my family.” “I love being loved.” “I love when my child cleans their room.” “I love the taste of food.” “I love my body.” And on and on and on….


7) Make an Effort to Smile.

It may seem ridiculous.  You’re seeking happiness, you’re not there yet, so why smile?  Simple.  Psychologically, it is harder to be unhappy when you acting happy.  It may be a bit of a trick, but smiles draw smiles, and who knows?  As a result of smiling, not only might you feel better just because you are smiling, but you might also draw happy people to you that can help make you happier!


8) Use Positive Affirmations.

We already mentioned that our minds tend to focus on fixing problems, which means we focus on negative things. We have within our power the ability to change the ratio of negative to positive thoughts.

Make positive affirmations part of your routine. Repeat them and do it with emotion. Start with “I am worthy of happiness.” Repeat it often. Visualize what that means to you. What does happiness look like? If you can see it, and you can believe it, it can be.  Have you visited my page on positive affirmations?  Find out more of positive affirmations and their benefits here.

Will following all of these steps guarantee happiness? Heck no. Remember? Happiness is a choice and making the choice to do these things can only lead you closer to finding it.


Here’s an excellent speaker who has spoken a lot on the topic of happiness.  Brian Tracy a great author/speaker and has helped thousands of people on their self-improvement journey.

All active, loving parents want their children to grow up with happiness; we all want our kids to feel fulfilled, have self-esteem and, well, feel good about themselves in general.  I’ve had the opportunity to hear Brian Tracy speak in person, and have many of his recordings.  He imparts his wise counsel in a graceful way, and is well worth listening to.  Even though I’ve heard him many times on many topics, I learn something new almost every time I listen to him.  Check him out here, or click the image below.


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