What is Stress?

Just the word “stress” itself can cause some people anxiety. So what IS stress, and how do we deal with it?

Well, according to Merriam-Webster Dictionary(1), it is: “a constraining force or influence…”, but one of the next definitions is: “a physical, chemical, or emotional factor that causes bodily or mental tension and may be a factor in disease causation.”


When we talk about our daily stress, often it encompasses all three of factors listed in their definition (physical, chemical AND emotional). What’s interesting to me is that their definition includes that it may be a contributor to development or disease progression.

Why might it be a contributor to disease? Because the body is meant to be at peace.

It’s important to note, at this point, that all three factors that can embody stress, can be present at the same time. For example, if I fall and break my arm, my bod

y is under physical stress. Recognizing this, the body will produce chemicals that help to get me through the pain, and my emotional state can also be affected.

But, once the arm is set and the initial pain wears off, the body works to repair the broken arm to bring me back to the state I was in before I broke my arm.

The stress that I want to focus on is the emotional stress, which affects so many of us without us even being consciously aware of it. Emotional stress and peace cannot cohabitate, so to speak. And we want peace. Again, the body operates at its best, when the spirit is at peace.
I’ve done a lot of reading of some of what I consider to be the best psychologists and students of the human condition on the planet. And while, scientifically, a lot of factors can be listed as contributors to stressors for people of the Western culture, there is one underlying theme: the mind is the key to finding peace.

It’s how we think about things that can affect the entire body.

Think back to a time when you noticed your own tension. I’m not talking about the tension that comes from overworked muscles or a physical strain, I’m talking about the kind of tension that makes shoulders tight, makes you notice a headache, or has you rubbing your temples. What were you doing? What were you thinking at that time?

While you can’t always control your thoughts, you can make a conscious effort to guide your thoughts.

I do this when I begin to notice stress creeping in by reminding myself that the biggest cause of stress is a negative perspective; I actually say to myself, “Stress is caused by how I’m thinking about things.”

A positive outlook is not only a stress management tool, but it’s the best way to find peace. It sometimes takes a lot of conscious effort to get or keep one, but a positive outlook can melt away anxiety. It is the best-kept secret on how to relieve stress, reduce tension, and keep you feeling good. Realizing when negative thoughts are dominating is the first step in changing them. It takes conscious effort at first, but eventually can become a habit. And that’s a habit you’ll want to keep!

(1) Merriam-Webster Dictionary Definition of Stress

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Hope Tiles

Hope. Have you ever thought about how it’s played a role in your life?


To see the bigger picture, it’s important to know what it is.


What is Hope?

When you look up it’s definition, you’re likely to find it defined as a feeling,

or a belief, or an attitude.  A couple of dictionary sites define it as a wishing or a strong desire for future events or circumstances that either affect one’s own life, or aspects of the world.

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Some say hope is just dreaming. Some say it’s a mirage that we try to hold onto when we want a different future or more of the same positive circumstances in the future. But, what’s the alternative? Without even knowing you, I’d venture to say that you and I would probably both much prefer hope to hopelessness.

And a better question might be: if we hope with strong emotion and exacting vision, is it possible for our own energy to help manifest what we hope for? (No, we can’t hope to change the sky green or other impossible feats, but within the realm of reason, could strong hope change the future?)


What is Hope to me? Based on my own life and what those close to me have experienced,


Hope is:

  • Beams of sunshine coming through the window in the morning
  • The belief that life doesn’t end when the physical form dies
  • Knowing that there could be an end to pain
  • Knowing that there could be a cure
  • A job offer
  • A raise
  • Improved health
  • The starting line… or the finish line in sight
  • Clean water
  • The promise that children will have it better off than their parents
  • New medicines
  • A sunset… and then a sunrise
  • Laughter
  • Saved hostages
  • Saved sins
  • The words, “It’s treatable”
  • A dog’s wagging tail
  • A wish to win
  • A wish not to lose
  • Rainbows
  • Peaceful sleep
  • A wish for safety
  • An intervention
  • A day without violence
  • A desire that they love you back


The list can go on, but one thing’s for certain. Life would be drastically different and clearly much worse without the existence of hope.


What does hope mean to you?



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Laugh! It’s Good for You!

Who doesn’t like to laugh? Doesn’t it just feel good?

Most of us have heard the phrase, Laughter as Medicine

“laughter is the best medicine,” but is it really? There’s more and more research to suggest that it does not only provide preventive benefits, but also self- healing, as well.

If you don’t want to just take my word for it, check out these resources:


The Power of Laughter

Psychology Today states that there’s evidence that laughter reduces blood sugar levels, helps blood vessels perform better, positively impacting the endothelium, (the lining of blood vessels,) which offsets the negative impact that stress has on the cardiovascular system. (1)

The University of Maryland cites a study by cardiologists at the University of Maryland Medical Center where they found that people who they studied with heart disease were 40% less likely to laugh in certain situations than those with no heart condition at the same age.(2)

The NCBI published results of a study on

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laughter that concluded, “Laughter has shown physiological, psychological, social, spiritual, and quality of life benefits. Adverse effects are very limited…”(3)

Total Health Institute states: “Another simple but very effective way to boost your immune system and balance your hormonal system is to laugh. Isn’t it interesting how our mind affects our body?”(4)

Maybe this is why there is actually something gaining a lot of credence in healing communities called laugh therapy (or laughter therapy). Laugh therapy is the purposeful incorporation of authentic laughter into your life to combat day-to-day stress or stress on the body and mind due to disease, loss, or other malady. Heck. There’s even laughter yoga now!

Aside from the health benefits, there are social benefits, too. That makes sense, right? Don’t we all love to be around people who laugh easily? I’m talking about the people who have a quick wit and positive demeanor, not those who laugh because of tension or nervousness.

These folks find enjoyment quickly and more effortlessly, or at least it seems so. Also, those who tend to laugh a lot usually seem to be having fun, and we all want that, don’t we? If we’re serious all the time, we get serious results from our lives.

We are made to want to play, to have fun and find enjoyment from life. Maybe that’s why we are naturally drawn to those who easily make their own fun, find wonderment, and, yes… laugh.Group laughing

Jeffrey Briar, Director of Laughter Yoga Institute states that the more a person chuckles, the easier it becomes. Is this a mental thing more than a physical one? It’s probably a combination of both; it exercises the mental and physical “muscles.” It becomes more habitual.

Here’s another fun fact: laughter begets laughter. When you see others doing it, you’re much more likely to join in, too! (You’ve seen the same thing with yawning, right?) So let’s pass on the laughter and forego the yawning.


Want to add more laughter to your life?


5 Ways to Add More Laughter to Your Life

  1. Think about what’s funny. When you find yourself being very serious in a situation that doesn’t have to be, think about what’s funny about it. Catch yourself being too serious and purposefully lighten up.
  2. Make it a point to read things and watch shows that make you laugh.
  3. Seek out others that make you laugh, or that look at the lighter side of things. (Have you heard the phrase, “You become like those people that you spend most of your time with?” So true.)
  4. Find a comedian that makes you laugh. Purchase and listen to / watch them frequently. It’s worth it!
  5. Are you up for some laugh yoga? Try it out if you are. There’s a reason why it’s a trend.


Regardless of how you do it, think about how you can get more laughter in on a day-to-day basis. There’s no downside, and you just might find that a lot more people seek out your company!

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  1. Psychology Today; “Laughter: The Best Medicine”; Hara Estroff Marano; 4/5/2005; reviewed 6/9/2016.
  2. University of Maryland Medical Center; “Laughter is the Best Medicine for Your Heart”; July 14, 2009
  3. US National Library of Medicine, National Institute of Health; “The therapeutic value of laughter in medicine”’ 2010 Nov-Dec; 16(6): 56-64.
  4. 4) Total Health Institute; “Laughter Boosts Immune System and Helps Fight Cancer”; Dr Keith Nemec; 6/24/2012.


Benefits of Meditation

Meditation isn’t a new practice; it has been around for thousands of years. Interestingly, it’s been a practice in countries that made it routine without knowledge that others all over the world were also meditating in some form. And while the meditation techniques may vary, the purpose behind it doesn’t vary much at all from culture to culture.


Let’s take a look at why different religions and/or cultures have embraced meditation through the ages.


Why Meditate?

The Buddhist Center states that meditation is “a means of transforming the mind.” Why Meditate?Their techniques promote clarity of mind, concentration, focus on the present, positive emotions, and calming. In fact, the principles of Buddhism are center around meditation.


The faith of Baha’l promotes meditation as a way for the individual to connect with the forces of the universe.


Taoism believes that meditation helps establish qi – or nature’s force—within the individual meditating.


Christians have practiced meditation as way of deepening prayer and personal revelation.


Hindus meditate as a way of finding mindfulness and to connect the self with the universal or infinite force.


There are many other religions as well as non-religious practices related to meditation, and all have a singular purpose: for the individual to search inside him/herself for one’s own life force and nature’s forces in the universe.




Ok. Now, so far, reasons to meditate have been spiritually-based. But there are other reasons, too! Outside of the spiritual, what does meditation do?


It can boost the immune system and decrease inflammation (1), According to the Mayo Clinic, “Meditation can give you a sense of calm, peace and balance that can benefit both your emotional well-being and your overall health.” (2) Many practitioners say that it makes them more productive because it improves concentration versus continual scattered thought.


Using positive affirmations during meditation can certainly help self confidence, as well.


Now that we know what it does, how is the best way to do it?


Meditation Techniques (General)


(If you are looking for specific techniques to follow, I’ll get into that in some other blog posts, so make sure you follow to get updates on techniques or other posts that might interest you.)


There are many different techniques to use when meditating and the type of meditation that you practice could be as individual as the goal you have for meditating in the first place. And, while there are also a number of different ways you could categorize meditation, there are 2 primary categories: guided meditation, and self-directed meditation.


Guided meditation enables the practitioner to be walked, step-by-step through the process of their meditation. It helps focus thought; it keeps the practitioner on track. This can be a good way to meditate if someone is new to the practice, or if they just want to have their thoughts guided toward the specific goal.


Self-directed meditation requires more discipline to refocus thought, but can be great for a very specific, individualized goal for the session.


Both have their place, and both can be very beneficial.


Are you new to meditation? Are you wanting some tools to help you get started? Here are some tools that might be helpful in getting you the easiest, most enjoyable entrance into the world of meditation. Check them out, and if you do, let me know what you think! I love success stories!


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The Power of Love in Attracting What You Want

The Power of Love

Before you can understand the power of love, you really need to know, “What is Love?”

What is Love?

Many would agree that love is a force of nature. And most might also agree,

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that depending on the context, it might just be the most

powerful force of nature that exists. Some mig

ht say that it is a neurological condition, and others with a more sociological slant migh

t say that it commitment entrenched in deep positive emotion.

A couple of things can be said of love that are irrefutable: Love is what connects all of humanity, mankind is conditioned to seek it, and it transcends even death.

How does this relate to attracting through love?

If you believe in the power of attraction, or as Dr. Wayne Dyer calls it, the “Power of Intention,” you realize that every emotion is emitted in a certain frequency. Just like sound waves have a frequency, so do microwaves, light waves, even waves in the ocean,

Think of it like this: if you are a radio with a number of different radio stations, LOVE would occupy one of those stations. And that’s the channel that we want to be playing to get all of the things that that station can provide for us.

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In an article published by Psychology Today, the author states, “Love is the best antidepressant—but many of our ideas about it are wrong. The less love you have, the more depressed you are likely to feel.” She goes on to say, “Love is as critical for your mind and body as oxygen. It’s not negotiable.”*

* (Psychology Today, by Ellen McGrath; pub 12/1,2002; reviewed 6/9/2016; http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200212/the-power-love)

Dr. Wayne Dyer has said, ““All great spiritual masters are teaching what we’re talking about,” says Dyer. “They’re teaching forgiveness. They’re teaching kindness. They’re teaching love. They’re not teaching wanting. They’re not teaching greed.”

Well, what most people really want comes through love. People do not want the feelings and the aftermath that comes with greed. They desire the things that are brought to them through the power of love.

Here’s an excerpt from Og Mandino’s “The Greatest Miracle in the World”:

“Remember, then, the four laws of happiness and success.

  • Count your blessings.
  • Proclaim your rarity.
  • Go another mile.
  • Use wisely your power of choice.

And one more, to fulfill the other four. Do all things with love … ”


How Do You Harness the Power of Love?

This is the easy part. You LOVE! It all starts with the self-talk. You use love words.

Start each day with thinking about all the things in your life that you love. What do you love so much that you want more of it? Really get into it and FEEL the good feeling that comes with each thing that think of. Visualize each thing as clearly as possible.

As you go throughout the day, what do you see that you love? What do you experience that you love? What do others do that you love? (As I do this, sometimes the things I DON’T love come in spurts of thought. If this happens with you, just recognize it, and refocus on the things that you love.)

Do this as a conscious exercise and eventually it will become a habit. Since like energy attracts like energy, you might just be surprised at the wonderful changes you experience in your life.

Here’s to enjoying the journey.


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Discover a More Positive Life: Avoid Toxic People

Avoid Toxic People

I really dislike the term “toxic people.”   Calling other people toxic is just negative.  Yet, people who on the one hand can be loving, compassionate, and fun can lean towards behaviors that are incompatible with others trying to surround themselves with the best life has to offer. They can just bring the people around them down.

“Toxic people” can come in all shapes and sizes, and the term can mean a lot of things depending on context. Here, as we talk about what you can do to lead a more positive life, “toxic people” means people that take you away from that goal.Avoiding negative people

We’ve talked before how the individual – YOU — are responsible for your own thoughts. YOU create your self-talk. YOU are in charge of the story line that gets told inside your head, yet we don’t live in a bubble. Others come and go in our lives, and others do have an effect on our experiences. We are social beings and we need others in our lives.

That said, we can also take an active role in how we let others into our experience. This means letting those who affect you positively into your experience, and keeping those who impact you negatively to a minimum.

How Do You Spot Toxic People?

1) Toxic people are cynical.

These are the people who always seem to have a negative worldview. They tend to always look at circumstances as though the glass is half empty. They constantly seem to want to point out the downfall or the negative in any situation.

2) They tend to have a negative tone. Have you ever noticed that, when talking to some people, just through their tone and body language they give you energy? Alternatively, have you ever noticed those who tend to deplete your energy? Have you ever noticed these people’s tone of voice? A lot of times, it’s just really demoralizing!

3) Toxic people can be those who are really insecure. These people put others down to make themselves feel better. They tend to give themselves humble-sounding compliments like, “I can’t believe I was able to do this… but I…” They may constantly one-up others, needing to get the last word in without giving others value in the conversation. They are either secretly or outwardly seeking attention.

4) They gossip. It’s almost like they feed on talking badly about others. Why? It speaks to a need to be involved, a need for feeling important, and their own insecurities.

Who does gossip hurt? Well, it CAN hurt the person who’s the topic of conversation, but often, they don’t even know they’re being talked about! It really hurts the gossipers. Why? It focuses on the negative. It’s negative energy. It’s not leading to the positive life that’s our goal.


So if you know what toxic people look like and what they do, what do you do about it?


Avoid Negative People and Negative Situations

That’s right! You can’t change others, and weren’t meant to, but you CAN remove yourself from bad situations.  This has to be intentional. It’s a matter of choice. Make a conscious choice to avoid being around negative people. If you’re in a toxic relationship, determine what makes it that way. What is keeping you both from being able to work toward that positive, fun, constructive life you want?Avoid the cynical

Avoiding other people or situations that are toxic can difficult to do, but it can be done. Just find someone or something that takes you out of whatever negative situation you’re in, and immerse yourself in someone or something that makes you feel good.

In some cases this is near impossible. In these situations, the key is not to get emotionally connected to the negative. The true compass is your feelings. If a situation makes you FEEL badly, you’re NOT headed in the direction of a positive life.

Some other tips when avoiding won’t work?

  • Notice when topics make you feel badly, and change the subject to something that makes you feel good!
  • See if you can point out something funny, something that makes you all laugh.
  • Be outwardly grateful. It’s surprising sometimes how this catches on. A negative topic that’s redirected through gratefulness can completely change the outcome of an interaction!

Lastly, if you leave a friend’s company and you realize that you’re constantly feeling badly when you look back at your interaction, maybe consider other friends to spend more time with.


Here’s the thing: we only have a little time here on earth. If you’re seeking happiness and the best, most positive experience while you’re here, realize that you have a choice where you spend that time. Knowing that others have influence on you and ultimately help shape who you are, choose wisely.

Here’s to enjoying the journey!


Happiness: What is it and how do you find it?

If you try to define it, what is happiness to you?

Throughout centuries, people have spent their entire lives looking for it; some find it, and some don’t.Happy mom

While people define it differently, my definition is an encompassing feeling of peace, fulfillment and joy. However it’s defined, one thing’s for sure: finding happiness is an independent journey. Everyone finds it through different things and experiences.

And ultimately, happiness is found through attitude. Happiness is a choice.

If happiness is choice, then it’s just a matter of each person determining what it looks like for them, and deciding to be it, right?

Well, outside influences can make that easier said than done.

So here are 8 things that we can actively do to help us on that journey:

1) Look for the good.

“Good”, well, it just feels good. When someone does something nice for you, it feels good. When you do something good for someone else, it usually feels good. When things are pleasant, loving, fun, energetic, and aren’t against your core values, it feels good. And happiness is a “feel good” emotion.

This also means…

2) Find the good in others.

Happiness is an emotion that you find within yourself. While others can help you find that, you certainly won’t find happiness by tearing others down. Have you ever seen those who spend a lot of time judging others? Have you seen how happy they are? These people don’t tend to be the happiest. Why? Again, happiness is found in yourself, and can’t be found by belittling others.

3) Surround yourself with people that make you feel good.

People are social creatures. But there are all types of people in the world. Have you ever noticed that some people walk in a room and light it up, while some people seem to suck all of the air out of the room? Some people have a natural tendency to smile a lot, and others don’t. Have you ever noticed that when you leave some people’s company you feel positive and good about yourself, while with others, you don’t feel that same way?happy family

Spend time with people who share your values, like to have fun the way you do, appreciate similar things, and make you feel good while you’re with them, and once you leave them.

On the flip side, (and this can be harder) you will want to monitor how you feel with people and NOT be around those who don’t bring you positiveness. That means remove yourself from interactions that aren’t positive and relationships that don’t feel good. That can be particularly hard when a relationship is… comfortable.

Have you ever seen people in a relationship that is comfortable, but doesn’t make a person happy? That’s because comfortable feels good, but it’s only one piece of the puzzle that leads to happiness.

4) Follow Your Values.

This was mentioned above, but it is hard to be happy when you are doing something against your core values. It’s hard to be happy when you are around other people that do things against your core values, and particularly if others want you to join them. Listen to your soul and follow your belief system. It’s one kind of guidance system keeping you on the right path.

5) Find and Live Your Purpose.

I believe that everyone has gifts, special gifts that they were meant to share with the world. I believe that in doing that, they not only provide a unique value to others and make the world a better place, but this is how they fulfill their sense of purpose.

Yet, many of us have no idea what these special gifts are! EVERYONE has them. Figure yours out. Sometimes, its’ really hard to see them in ourselves so ask someone close to you what your gifts are.

Then use them with wild abandon. It’s amazing how far that can take a person on their journey to find happiness.

6) Love Abundantly.

In keeping with “Look for the Good” above, love energy is one of the most powerful energies in the universe. Most spiritual leaders argue that love is THE most powerful energy that exists between living things. Have you ever heard that hate will never conquer hate, that only love can defeat hate? And hate is a pretty powerful emotion.

Our minds sometimes get used to negative self talk which leads to internal conversations about things that aren’t right in the world. That’s one of the reasons we are so quick to notice things that are bad, things that hurt, and problems, but not as quick to actually notice when we feel good, or experience something nice.

Think of this: have you ever had a hangnail that starts as an ache, but then becomes really annoying? Eventually it hurts? You might even wrap it up or put something on it to help it heal?

How much attention did you pay your finger before you got the hangnail?Hand making a heart

We tend to focus on fixing problems, but don’t spend the same energy focusing on things we love.

Find things that you love. Take every chance you get to tell yourself what you love. “I love the sunshine.” “I love the birds singing.” “I love the flowers.” “I love the sound of rain on the roof.” “I love health.” “I love my family.” “I love being loved.” “I love when my child cleans their room.” “I love the taste of food.” “I love my body.” And on and on and on….


7) Make an Effort to Smile.

It may seem ridiculous.  You’re seeking happiness, you’re not there yet, so why smile?  Simple.  Psychologically, it is harder to be unhappy when you acting happy.  It may be a bit of a trick, but smiles draw smiles, and who knows?  As a result of smiling, not only might you feel better just because you are smiling, but you might also draw happy people to you that can help make you happier!


8) Use Positive Affirmations.

We already mentioned that our minds tend to focus on fixing problems, which means we focus on negative things. We have within our power the ability to change the ratio of negative to positive thoughts.

Make positive affirmations part of your routine. Repeat them and do it with emotion. Start with “I am worthy of happiness.” Repeat it often. Visualize what that means to you. What does happiness look like? If you can see it, and you can believe it, it can be.  Have you visited my page on positive affirmations?  Find out more of positive affirmations and their benefits here.

Will following all of these steps guarantee happiness? Heck no. Remember? Happiness is a choice and making the choice to do these things can only lead you closer to finding it.


Here’s an excellent speaker who has spoken a lot on the topic of happiness.  Brian Tracy a great author/speaker and has helped thousands of people on their self-improvement journey.

All active, loving parents want their children to grow up with happiness; we all want our kids to feel fulfilled, have self-esteem and, well, feel good about themselves in general.  I’ve had the opportunity to hear Brian Tracy speak in person, and have many of his recordings.  He imparts his wise counsel in a graceful way, and is well worth listening to.  Even though I’ve heard him many times on many topics, I learn something new almost every time I listen to him.  Check him out here, or click the image below.


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Positive Affirmations: What Are They and Do They Help?

Most of us who are familiar with the all-time great motivational speakers have heard of positive affirmations. But do they really work in helping us to lead a life that is fulfilling?

Words.  The Power of Positive Affirmations

To start with, let’s take a look at what the word “affirmation” means.


The site The Free Dictionary.com states that affirmation means “something declared to be true; a positive statement or judgment.” The next definition is “A statement intended to provide encouragement, emotional support, or motivation, especially when used for the purpose of autosuggestion.”


When we’re talking about positive affirmations, it’s the last part of that definition—the autosuggestion—that most applies.

You see, words matter. We all know that, right?


I remember growing up, I was hounded by a particular girl in class. Even after school, she’d manage to find me and would always say things to try to get under my skin. One day, at the end of class, I noticed a notebook being passed around. They called it a “slam” book. Did you have those where you went to school?


The purpose of the slam book was to have a page for each person in the class. Every member of class could “sign” the book on each person’s page, but usually they’d write some things about the person on their page. Everyone was anxious to sign the book, but secretly, they were more anxious to find out what other kids had written about them.


I remember when it was my turn to get the book, I was so nervous about what my classmates had said about me. I flipped to my page, and was really happy to see that there were some really nice things said about me by the other kids. But there was that one comment – that mean one by the girl who always tried to get to me. THAT was the one that stuck in my head. With 99% positive things written, why did I fixate on the 1 that was ugly?


I remember going home and crying to my mom. There wasn’t much she could say or do to help me feel better, but she did tell me the age-old adage: “Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me.”


Bull. They hurt. To this day, while I’m far from hurt over it, I still remember it. Do I think about it often? No. That’s counterproductive, and goes against what I believe will create the best future for me. I bring it up, though, to show that negative words do matter.


But so do positive ones. And those are the ones we’re talking about here.

Dr. John Gottman, relationship expert for over 40 years and founder of the Gottman Institute, predicts divorce among couples that he talks with based on their ratio of positive words (and expressions) over the negative ones. “The magic ratio is 5:1.” Those couples who have 5 times more positive interactions than negative ones are most likely to be stable.


The reason, he suggests for this ratio, is that there isn’t balance of power between the negative and the positive.


Today’s Christian Woman states that, “Our brain needs a higher number of positive entries to counterbalance [a] built-in negativity bias. And several small, frequent, positive acts pack more punch than one giant-size positive.”


If this is all true for couples, it certainly is true in our own self-talk. Self affirmation, using words of affirmation internally is a must to counteract the negatives thrown at us on a daily basis.


How to Incorporate Positive Affirmations into Your Day


  • To start with, it MUST be something that you commit to. It just needs to be part of your routine. I like to begin my day by using affirmations when talking to myself, before I even get out of bed.
  • Use present tense. “I am ____________.”
  • The ratio above states the importance of multiple occurrences of the positive. So state an affirmation 5 times.
  • THINK about what you are saying. What does that look like? Can you visualize it? Can you feel it? What does that feel like? What does it look like? What are the positive things that happen around you when you are what you repeat?   The more passion and the more “realness” you put with that statement, the more powerful it will be.
  • Want an example? “I have a light inside me that I will shine on the everyone I see today.” ““I have a light inside me that I will shine on the everyone I see today.” “I have a light inside me that I will shine on the everyone I see today.”

Can you feel it? It should feel really good, whatever you are telling yourself.

  • Then take that positive feeling and get on with your day.


If, as the day goes on, something negative comes your way, notice it, but try not to dwell on it. Instead, start your positive affirmations to negate the negative.


One way to take your mind off of negative things that you encounter is to think of things – and I mean REALLY get into the thought – of what you are thankful for. In one of the presentations I’ve seen by Tony Robbins he states that you can’t devote energy to negative emotions when you are really concentrating on what you are grateful for.


It really does change the picture. You CAN be positive. You CAN have all that being positive can bring to you. Attract good by thinking good things. Start today.


Need extra help? Watch this video.  See what some positive encouragement, affirmations and belief can do.

Click here to watch a cool video on the power of positivity.

The Law of Attraction

Law of Attraction: Quotes from Past and Present Philosophers on the Power of Thought

Law of Attraction.  The belief that one can create their own reality by attracting that reality through thought.

It’s been all the rage as a topic of modern-day psychologists and philosophers, since the making of the movie, “The Secret,” several years ago.  But did you know that it’s been a focus — and an outright passion — of ma

Magnetic attraction

ny other famous self-help gurus for years, decades and even centuries?

The manifestation of your reality through your thought processes has become widely accepted as a truism, but many still don’t believe in the concept.  They call the future “destiny,” or

“coincidence,” and just don’t believe

that a person can help guide their future through the power of thought.

Still others may actually believe in the law of attraction, but don’t use it to create a positive future for themselves.

Do YOU believe in the widely recognized law of attraction?

Do you believe that what you think about most and what you conceive with passion will manifest?  If you’re on the fence, or you need some reassurance that great minds actually whole-heartedly believe that you attract into existence what you think about, take a look at some inspiring quotes by well-recognized thought leaders.  Notice that philosophers today are saying the same basic things about thought as the greats from centuries ago:

Famous Quotes About the Power of Thought and the Law of Attraction

“What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday, and our present thoughts build our life of tomorrow. Our life is the creation of our mind.” Buddha

“Our life always expresses the result of our dominant toughts.” Soren Kierkegaard (mid- 1800s Danish philosopher)

“The person who sends out positive thoughts activates the world around him positively and draws back to himself positive results.” Norman Vincent Peale (1898-1993 Protestant preacher)

“You become what you think about all day long.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

“You are today wh

ere your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.” James Allen 1864-1912 American essayist

“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” Marcus Aurelius

“What you think, you become.”

Buddha (563 B.C. -483 B.C.; founder of Buddhism)

“The mind is everything; what you think, you become.”

Socrates (470 B.C. – 399 B.C.; Greek philosopher)


“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

Napoleon Hill (1883-1970; American self-help author)


‘Thought is th

e sculptor who can create the person you want to be.”

Henry David Thoreau (1817-1862 American philosopher)


“A man is literally what he thinks.”


James Allen (1864-1912, American essayist)


“Man is what he believes.”


on Chekhov (1860-1904, Russian author)


“Reality is a projection of your thoughts or the things you habitually think about.”             Stephen Richards (20th Century self-help author)

“Men are not prisoners of fate, but only prisoners of their own minds.”

Franklin D. Roosevelt (1882-1945;

32nd President of the United States)


“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.”    

Bible; Proverbs 23:7 NKJV


““What we think determines what happens to us, so if we want to change our lives, we need to stretch our minds.”

Wayne Dyer  (1940-2015; teacher, speaker, self-help author)


So if these great minds believe that the mind can create and attract tomorrow’s reality, I think that there might just be something to it.

Are there more quotes on the power of the mind?  Heck yeah, and I’m sure there are some excellent ones I’ve missed.

Have you got a quote about the power of the mind that deserves to be listed here?  I’d love to hear from you.  Just send them through “comments” below.


Want more from some of the greats on the Law of Attraction and the power of the mind?  Check out these resources below.


Experiencing the Miraculous with Dr Wayne Dyer
Experiencing the Miraculous, by Dr. Wayne Dyer; 4 DVD Set

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill (Original, Unabridged 12 CD Set)





Mind Reprogramming with Conscious Positive Thinking

We want positive events and circumstances in our lives. So why is it that we don’t always get them?


The Power of Thought

Our minds are computers which we have programmed. Sometimes our prog

Positive thinking

ramming is deliberate, but most often, we’ve programmed our minds through our thought patterns — those streams of conversation that take place in our heads to which we pay little or no attention.


We take in data of all sorts. We take in what others tell us from a very early age, analyze it, and create files, sort of like a filing cabinet. We store data so that we can make sense of things that go on around us.


Here’s the problem. A large portion of the data that we process is negative, or interpreted that way.


Think about this: from a very early age, we are told, “no.” “Don’t do that,” “Not a good idea,” etc. We’re told this by parents and other adults who try to protect us from harm, an

d while the intention may be good, it starts to condition us early on to accept negative programming. We then continue to accept it throughout life, often without even realizing it, unless we make a concerted effort to change how negative words influence us.


In the article, “The Most Dangerous Word in the World,” by Andrew Newb

erg, M.D., and Mark Waldman; (Psychology Today, 8/1/12), the authors suggest that we process negative and positive events and words differently. They state that negative words have a profoundly greater destructive effect on a person than positive words have in producing positive effects. Negative words expressed with passion can trigger stress chemicals that take a toll on a person both psychologically and physiologically.

They go on to say that negative thinking is self-perpetuating and can be difficult to stop. Humans seem to have a propensity to worry, and it might just be hardwired in us from a time when we associated distinctly negative events with threats to our very survival.


Interestingly, the brain reacts differently to positive thinking. While we can overcome negative thoughts with positive ones, our minds respond with less vigor to good thou

ghts. One of the founders of “Positive Psychology,” Barbara Frederickson found that for each negative expression, we would need to generate at least 3 positive ones to combat the effects of the negative one.


With this in mind, is there any doubt as to the power of thought, and why we need to consciously work on reprogramming them to benefit us?


How Do We Begin to Reprogram and Make Positive Thinking Habitual?

We begin by listening to our self-chatter, and catching ourselves when realize we are generating negative thoughts. We can then consciously redirect our thoughts. But…

Ponder this: If we want to redirect from negative thinking to positive thinking and we “catch” ourselves thinking negative thoughts, aren’t we giving attention to the negative thoughts?


Obviously, the answer is yes. However, many people go through life paying no attention to their self talk and the negative thoughts perpetuate.


Tony Robbins, international professional speaker and motivator focusing on manifesting a positive life, wholly believes in mind power. He says, “As soon as I start to get stressed, I kill that monster while it’s little…I don’t wait until it’s Godzilla eating the city, and my life….” Tony Robbins believes that reprogramming your mind [consciously eliminating the negative and focusing on positive] is part of taking an active approach in designing the life that you want.


Catching yourself in a negative stream of thought enables you to make a conscious decision to redirect; produce a positive thought, focus on it, repeat it at least 5 times, and do it with as much positive emotion as you can muster. The positive emotions help to counteract the “threatening” forces of negative influences.


Want to read more on how to reprogram your negative self-talk focusing on positive thinking? Check out the book by Shad Helmstetter, Ph.D.: What to Say When You Talk To Yourself,

or the book by Jennifer Rothschild,Me, Myself and Lies: What You Say When You Talk To Yourself.  Both books are great reads and can really help you redirect thought in positive ways.


What You Say When You Talk To Yourself - Audio Book


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